Ah... inadvertently when the talk of clubbing arose, this good girl was questioned about a style of dancing… probably unsatisfactory to the questioner … on the opinion she had on the art of (what’s the word… etch…) ah… grinding… haha
Ah pourquoi?
Pas ce-que mon ami…
Truth be told… I believe it is only character that guides your actions… less so then what you’re told to do… or are told you’re supposed to do…
The act of anything is guided only by our minds and we respond to the mental stimulus, which is only guided by our inner self... ie our ingrained moral stance… heavily influenced by teachings you adopt from well-meaning ppl thru’out our lives.
Heh.
And perhaps not being really able to explain what I meant when I said… I don’t do it, not because I feel its immoral, by no means, but it reflects the character of one whom I dance with… n I believe that if he was gallant enough… there would be less “taking advantage” or widely public display of “affection”. :)
A bon example of this kind of gallantry I can only explain by showing, so I’ll quote:
(* err disclaimer: If u object to any sort of sexual content, pardon… this scene takes place between a newly married couple... concerning the matters of premarital sex… hmmm date is the year of our Lord 1743, country Scotland… * )
“…
He appeared to be honestly scandalized ‘You do not think that I would take ye without offering you marriage!’
‘Many men would,’ I said, amused by his innocence.
He sputtered a bit, at a momentary loss. Then regaining his composure, said with formal dignity, ‘ Perhaps I’m pretentious in saying so, but I would like to think that I am not ‘many men’ and I dinna necessarily place my behaviour at the lowest common denominator.’
…” – Outlander, Diana Gabaldon
hmm…
out of text, I don’t know how that will be grasped… anyways… it brings to mind that this bon chat, was also asked to explain her preferences for a partner… (on a different situation)
Stumped at that point… I will now attempt to answer :)
In lieu of what was said… preferences run to:
A gallant spirit, quick wit, easy conversation and a brave heart – oh the courage to do what is right… A will to try, a steadiness of spirit and patience enough to learn…
Although… as all things go… it would not be so bad if he had the looks as well ;) …
At the end of it all:
À bon vin point d'enseigne…
au revoir ;)
posted by gossamerofcontradictions @ 12:01 AM